Why some married women complain about their Husbands not leading

I know, I know, this frustrates wives when they read this scripture because their husband is not leading the home. I get so much complaining from wives when they say to me "my husband just won't step up." Well let's keep it real:

1. You didn't have to marry him. You seen what he was like before you married him. You knew he was a chump and wasn't sold out for the Lord. Any true husband when married, their wife don't complain about him being the head of his home because she respected him BEFORE they married.

2. The question is did you want someone to lead your home God's way or are you a control freak and therefore married a man with no backbone? I'm not mad at you, having control issues is something that can be fixed by studying the word of God and confessing to God control is an issue for you. Now guess what? You complain to everyone in your church about how "he's not stepping up!" He's not trying to step up because he knows you HAVE to HAVE the last word....all the time!

Ok, now that I got that off my chest.

"And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ." -Eph. 5:21

See the importance of marrying a submitted man to God? (According to Eph 5:21) When you marry a submitted man to God and Godly authority he understands followship (him being submitted to other Godly men) then in turn he learns how to lead from being submitted and studying his Bible. When you marry someone who's not submitted to no one, watch out! He becomes his own judge and jury, therefore not respecting you and the children. Everything he does is conditional and IF he feels like doing it. Real submission is when you don't feel like doing something but do it anyway. Remember submission means yield, not stop.

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vanessa on Monday, May 09, 2011 5:04 AM

wow! your right!I'm unhappy and it's my own fault. I rushed to want to be this man who married me only because I had his kid and now even though he is saved, i'm happy for him but 16 years later, I'm unhappy and feel neglected by him. He is unaffectionate, great provider but cold. I want to talk to someone and don't know who. I talk to God all the time about it but lately it's hurting more. :(

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Tyna on Friday, May 13, 2011 2:55 PM

This was difficult for me to read because of the grammatical issues. Secondly, your Ephesians 5:21 refers to mutual submission....as in the man submitting to his wife. Perhaps you need to revisit this scripture in its full context and without presuppositions and agendas.

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Chelsea on Tuesday, June 28, 2011 6:45 AM

@Tyna, Ephesians 5:21 (Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.) is speaking to both men and women, yes. However, the message above is speaking to the wife specifically. In addition, Colossians chapter 3 tell wives to submit but for husbands to love. Ephesians is very specific about submitting one to another IN THE FEAR OF GOD. This message is powerful, received and well written. THX much and God bless.

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