 When we meet a man, often times we have a bad habit of planning our future with him in our heads, and he hadn't even quite asked us out yet. We are quick to jump into relationships with a guy we hardly know that we loose sight of who we are. Especially, if you can’t remember the last time you were on a date. Too many women are turning a blind eye on their dreams and passions. We give up certain interest and hobbies just to fit into some man’s life style. And some of us stop spending time with family and friends.Ladies, what are we afraid of, growing old alone and never becoming Mrs. so and so? Or are we so worried about our biological clock that we don’t have time to risk losing this wonderful guy by expressing our opinions. So therefore, we go on hiding our identities and living unfulfilled lives. I have a friend who I’ll call Sherry. She likes going out dancing with her friends. But, when she met the man who was to become her husband, her dancing days stopped. Her husband doesn't like to dance and has no problem expressing that. Being so in love with him she gave it up. Now that they’re married, he is against her going out with her friends. She has to lie about her whereabouts in order to do the things she missed. I have another friend we call the princess (because that’s what she acts like). I’m talking the girly girl type. She is all about the hair and makeup. She keeps her nails done and keeps up with the latest trends. Oh, and did I mention makeup? Her idea of fun is shopping and hanging out at the mall. Well, I haven’t seen her in a course of over a couple of months until she called me up one day to ask me to meet her for lunch. To my surprise when I saw her she did not look quite like her normal self. While hanging out she asked me if I knew where she could sell her ATV because she was tired of four wheeling out in the desert with her fiance. I paused for a moment. Yeah, uh, what? “Four wheeling,” I said with a puzzled look only face. She explained to me that this is what he likes to do. But, now she’s sick of it. OK, another example, if your man’s favorite restaurant is red lobster and seafood breaks you out into hives, this is not a time to be silent. Unless you don’t mind looking like a walking disease. And this is just to name a few. Now you wonder what drew you to this person to begin with. Was it the fact that he was so different from us, the thrill of exploring new territory? Well, when the excitement wares off we start to resent him. So, why do we continue to settle for a life with a man who makes us miserable and is not even interested in getting to know the real you. We all have something about us that is exciting and unique. We have gifts and talents that are yet to be explored but, what good are they if we keep them hidden. Ladies, we need to stop being afraid to live our lives the way we deserve from fear of losing our relationships. The men, who are looking for a step ford wife, wouldn't have any respect for you anyway. And there are men who genuinely want to get to know you and they don’t want to have to do all the work. It’s one thing to make compromises for your man as long as it’s a give and take. But, if you are always doing the things that he likes and letting him make all the decisions,then your self worth is lost. The men in our lives are supposed to love and appreciate our uniqueness. Usually, by the time you come to realize this, its already too late. Now you start to reveal your real personality and he doesn't know you anymore. He is like “what?” This by the way is not fair to him because you had been a stranger all this time. So he has a choice to accept this new you or pass. And if he don’t accept you, that means he just freed you up for the guy who will. |
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